Accusations

I often get asked questions in this form:

a) You are not burning the ___, are you?
b) You are not going to bed late, are you?
c) You are not going to do ___, are you?

Why do I find these questions SO irritating? I think I've finally figured it out -- they are accusatory. These questions...they are implying blame or strong criticism and it bugs the shit out of me.

Let's see ... how do I answer the first question. Uh, no...why would I want to burn the ____?
Response to second question - as if I am a child who needed scolding. I'm chided for going to bed late even before I go to bed late. Uhm..no, I am not going to bed late if I can help it.
An answer to the last question puts me on the defensive side. Well...as a matter of fact I was going to ____. What if I am going to do____? Why, do you not want me to? Even if the question was out of good intentions.

Why not try:
a) I smell something. Could the ___ be burning?
b) I hope you come to bed soon. (Why not just express your thought or opinion instead of accusing me of going to bed late before I even go to bed late?!)
c) Are you going to ___? (At least this question is asking me what I am going to do, IF I am going to do it at all and not accusing me which is what "You are not going to do XYZ, are you?" does.)

Such negative questions...or am I just PMSing here?

Seriously, maybe I'll try forming my questions using the examples above:
a) You are not going to brush your teeth, are you?
b) You are not going to have breakfast, are you?
c) You are not going to work, are you?

Answering 'yes' to the above feels like you are doing something you shouldn't.

Instead of merely asking, are you going to brush your teeth? Are you going to have breakfast? Are you going to work?

Answering 'yes' to these questions doesn't make me feel guilty. Yes, merely confirms that I am doing what I should and it isn't wrong.

Kiddie Table

I had a dream that John and I were invited to a birthday party which was to be held in the lounge area of a restaurant. Since the event was at 7 p.m., we thought we'd go to the restaurant prior to start of the party so we could eat dinner in the restaurant. When we had arrived, there was a large group of people we knew (who would also be at the party) sitting around a table. Clearly they were in the middle of dinner. Confused I wondered if we were late. Had we missed something about meeting for dinner prior to the party? John and I looked around for chairs to sit down but there were none around the table...and no one made a gesture to make room for us.

Just then another couple we knew showed up and they were in the same boat as us. We looked at each other, unsure of what to say or think. I felt somewhat awkward, as if we had not been invited but brushed it off. It had not dawned on me until much later that we were not suppose to sit down with the group for dinner. How silly we must have looked trying to sit down when we weren't welcome.

The other couple who came later got a table with us and we ended up having a nice dinner--separate from the group. We had a discussion about what happened to sort out our thoughts. We didn't know it but we were shunned to the "Kiddie Table" when we showed up and there was no place to sit around the table. Someone redirected us to the lounge saying we could wait in the hookah lounge and order food there while the group finished up their dinner. Dining in the smoky environment did not sound appealing which was why the four of us ultimately got a table in the restaurant.

When my dinner came, the sight was so beautiful and delicious. I opened my mouth to take a big bite...and that's when I woke up.

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Five weeks to go

Today: Easy - Trainer
10.81 miles
12mph
52 minutes
-distracted with work on my mind, didn't drink water during workout
*next time no laptop or going through mail, drink more water

Yesterday: Moderate Cardio - Trainer
14+ miles
15-16avg mph
55 minutes
-bike fit a bit uncomfortable but did good with drinking water

Tomorrow: Moderate - Road?
Goal: 10-15 miles

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Worth the Effort

When I think what a pain it is to haul an extra bag full of dirty tupperware to take home, I tell myself it's worth the effort to eat healthy.
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Exercise 2 hours per week to be healthy

The feds have released a guideline for minimal health: exercise 2 hours per week to be healthy according to this MSN article. At first, I didn't think that was so bad but given my track record at the gym this past month, I can see how this could be a challenge for many.

If I exercise for 30 minutes per day for 4 days each week, I would achieve this goal of 2 hours of exercise per week. From past experience, coupled with a clean diet, I would say that I have reached a healthy weight and body composition range (through 6 months of persistence).

But this month, this is easier said than done.

Slacker

I must fess up, I've been flaky with my gym routine since the start of September. Of course, that was the last time I posted because I've been busy and avoiding the fact that I've been a slacker. Even though my clothes don't pressure me to shed the extra pounds I've gained since reaching my goal, I can see and feel soft spots and I don't like it. (My body gains weight proportionately so it's easy to not notice weight gain using my clothes as a gauge just as it is hard to tell I've lost weight. So I go off by sight and feel for loss of tone.)

What can I say? Life gets in the way and I'm still trying to adjust to my schedule at work. I use to able to get so sweaty doing cardio and look somewhat decent afterwards before going back to my hole-in-the-wall office. Besides sharing that space with my supervisor, I may not see another soul that afternoon. Now I have meetings in the mornings or the afternoons and whether I do or do not have a scent after working out, I still feel a little uncomfortable sitting in such close quarters.

This weekend, my left calve felt like I was in a hopscotch marathon! It was so tight, it hurt to take a full stride so I limped here and there. I suspect the cause was from my driving style lately, pushing the clutch of my car with my toes instead of my entire foot. Despite the lingering uncomfortableness that I felt today, I made myself leave the office for the gym.

I had a good forty-minute spin session on the stationary bike and that felt good! Today, I didn't care that my hair was a little matted from sweating and my body stuck to my clothing for a little bit afterwards. I needed to burn off all the drinking I did this past weekend...LOL!!

I can already tell this weekend will have some challenges I'll need to overcome if I am to get back on my regular workout routine but something more than I've done the past few weeks is better than what I've done the past few weeks up until now. Maybe I'll have to visit the gym twice a day so I can kick back into gear...